Many people misunderstand the definition of happiness. They think that if all their problems went away, they’d be happy. They’re wrong. They’d be bored within an hour. No problems means there’s nothing to do, nothing to solve, nothing to achieve. Happiness is the joy of achieving, the joy of making something better. It’s not about taking away the bad things, it’s about making the bad things better. Life sucks, we all know that. Whining about it won’t make it any better. Ignoring your problems won’t make it any better.
Overall, I’d say my own life pretty much sucks. But I’m not unhappy, because I’m making it better, constantly. Many people strive for ‘happiness’. People define of happiness as a static mindset, yet they forget life is dynamic. It’s ever-changing, and that’s what makes it interesting. I strive to better my life. There’s a distinct difference many people wouldn’t quite understand. Happiness isn’t a state of mind. It’s a process.
Another oft-made mistake is being unhappy. This is a state of mind which tends to propagate itself. When you’re unhappy, you start thinking unhappy thoughts. A vicious circle, a downward spiral. Either way, unhappiness is overrated. It’s not as tough to be happy as people seem to think. It’s a matter of focus.
Looking for the silver lining may seem to be silly in the face of a storm, but you can’t have a rainbow without rain. The bad things usually seem worse than they are, but there are many, many times where they make the good things stand out more. Embrace those times, rather than shoving them away to stare into whatever pit of despair you’ve found yourself in.
Find what’s good in your life and only then pay attention to the bad things in your life. A positive approach can help you find the answers you seek, which often are simpler than they may appear.
On the other hand, there are some things you just can’t influence. Never try to control the things you know are beyond your influence. Trying to control that which you cannot control will end up controlling you. Putting energy into something without reward.
My definition of happiness:
The process improving one’s life and the lives of others.
My definition of unhappiness:
Slavery.